A wiseman once said (Theodore Roosevelt) “Comparison is the thief of joy.” For years I would always come back to this quote. It would be at different times in my life for a variety of different reasons, but mostly because I was comparing myself to other people. Comparing what they were doing in their life, what they had, what I didn’t have, etc. etc. I think we all do this from time to time. I try my best not to compare, but let’s be real, I’m human. It happens. We just need to try and be comfortable with where we are, not where we think you should be. We must honor our pace.
Of course I’ve been doing a little comparing of where I’m at in my life with where others are at in theirs. I’m totally calling myself out on it. I have even been comparing what I look like to what other people look like. (Kinda silly, but I’m just being honest). That may be something I always struggle with, because it’s just something that’s been ingrained in my brain (my own doing). Yes, I know it’s not something I should be doing, but the reality is is that I am. It’s like I have to reprogram my mind a little bit. However, as quickly as I jump on the “comparison hamster wheel”, I quickly try to turn it around and think about what I do have and how far I have come with my body image. This is one of the main reasons why I post pictures of myself from time to time, or take a selfie. I’m learning to accept and embrace what I look like. I’m becoming more comfortable sharing pictures for others to see, which is progress. There was a time when I couldn’t stand what I looked like and never wanted my picture taken. I’m learning to appreciate not just who I am on the inside, but who I am on the outside. I’m learning to limit the comparing (I’m realistic that some days I will be better at it than others). I may not have what some people have or look like a super model, but at the end of the day, I know that’s okay and I’m going to be just fine. I am who I am.
In a previous blog, I mentioned how social media makes us compare our lives (as well as our looks) to other people. Talking with other people/friends, I know this to be true. It’s hard not to compare when everything is right there for us to see. Insecurities kick in and we start comparing but let’s try and remember:
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight real.” – Steve Furtick
Let that sink in for a minute. I mean…so true, right?!
| Comparison isn’t just the thief of joy, it’s the thief of EVERYTHING. Keep your eyes on your purposeful path, celebrate others. Celebrate progress, not perfection. Cultivate gratitude over comparison. Gratitude turns what we have into more than enough. |
AMEN to that!
As always, thank you for taking the time to read. Be kind to yourself.