A letter to my twenty-two year old self.



We’ve all thought about it before. The notion that what if we could write a letter to our younger self, or go back in time and share some wisdom with our younger self. Life doesn’t come with a set of instructions, so what advice/pointers would we give? What would we say? I’ve thought about this countless times and I’ve even touched on it once in an Instagram post a few years back. It was a brief paragraph about what I would say to my twenty-two year old self. I picked that particular age because it was a difficult time in my life and I really thought I knew so much about life. I thought I had it all figured out.  Little did I know what was ahead of me, but that’s the beauty of life. We don’t know what’s around the corner. Besides telling my twenty-two year old self to “buckle up” here’s what else I would say…


Try not to always worry about what people think of you. You’re more than great just the way you are.

Not everyone is your friend. Sometimes you just have to learn to look out for yourself.

Please stop comparing yourself to other people.

Your happiness depends on YOU, nobody else.

You will have your heart broken a few times, but just remember that after each heartbreak, you will get to know yourself a little bit better. That is a gift in and of itself.

Spend as much time with your family as you can.

Tell the people you care about how much you love them, all the time. Everyday.

Take lots of pictures even if it gets on people’s nerves.

Be spontaneous and don’t follow all the rules. You really will miss out on all of the fun.

If you’re passionate about something, stick with it. You just might be able to turn your passion into a career.

Follow your dreams. Don’t give up, regardless of how hard it is.

You are beautiful.

Nobody is perfect, so please stop trying to be.

You are enough.

Always be kind to everyone you meet. It really is true, you never know what people are going through.

Help people whenever you can.

Don’t compromise your happiness for someone else’s.

Realize that just by having a plan doesn’t mean things will work out the way you want them to.

Be patient with life.

Be patient with others.

Be patient with yourself.

Don’t be afraid to cry. You’ve gotta let it out sometimes.

Try something new even if you’re scared.

Never underestimate the value of a hand written card, letter or thank you note. A little goes a long way.

Learn to let go of people and things that aren’t helping you become a better person.

Don’t let your pride get in the way. Ask for help when you need it.

Stop obsessing over things you can’t control.

And last but not least…Don’t be in such a rush to “grow up.” Enjoy being twenty-two because before you know it, you will be in your thirties wondering where the hell the years went!

I literally could go on and on but I knew it was time to wrap it up, but can I add something? After I read through all the things I would tell my twenty-two year old self, I realized all of these points I made I can apply to present day. So, I think the point is that no matter how much we’ve grown or how fast the years have flown by, our younger self is always inside of us. It’s our job to remind them how to really live life and enjoy the moment.

I encourage you to write a letter to your younger self. It’s a great take away and a testament to who you are today and where you are in life. It’s also serves as a great reminder of how much of a survivor you are. We’ve all been through a lot and it’s nice to remind ourselves that we made it out the other side. Woohoo! Good job, guys!

As always, thank you for taking the time to read. Be kind to yourself…and just remember that whatever life may throw at you, don’t forget to say “bring it!”


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