The good, the bad, the ugly. Welcome to social media! It has become a part of everyday life for most of us. Well, most of us minus my parents. We get sucked in whether we want to admit it or not. Thank God Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat wasn’t around when I was in high school. I can’t even imagine how much harder it would have made my teenager years. Good Lord, it’s tough now as an adult to not compare ourselves to others and what other people are doing, so I can’t even imagine what it’s like for teenagers. The cyber bullying is everywhere and sadly, it does affect people of all ages. There are a lot of positives and negatives to social media. Positives: connecting people, staying in touch, promoting your business, getting advice, sharing ideas, supporting one another. Negatives: comparing your life to other people, becoming more self-conscious of the way you look, comparing what you do for a living to what others do, cyber bullying, people constantly complaining, negativity. The list goes on and on. And if you’re a business owner like myself, one negative review or mistake can spread like wildfire on social media and potentially ruin the business you’ve worked so hard for. It’s scary. I mean, it legit gives me nightmares.
There are also so many features/filters on social media were you can alter how you look or enhance your looks. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good filter when it’s needed. I love filters that are super fun, but at the same time, I still want to look like me. I’m not knocking anybody that goes overboard on filters, it’s just hard to be real anymore or know what people really look like or not look like. Being real and keeping it real is a full-time job. I’m exhausted just talking about it.
I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I do find myself getting caught up from time to time in the world of social media. I start comparing myself to other people and I start picking apart my flaws. I have to make a conscious effort to stop that whole thought process and realize that sometimes what we see on social media is not really what’s going on in real life. A wise woman I know always tells me to “cancel that thought!” I think the reason it’s so difficult to not compare and worry about what other people are doing is because we get a front row seat into their lives thanks to you know what…social media. At the same time though, it can serve as a reality check/reminder that we need to be secure with who we are. Yes, I know that can be tough. I get it. I’m my own worst critic. Life is hard enough and there are far more important things to worry about so why are we putting all this pressure on ourselves to try and be perfect? It’s impossible.
I really try my best to not complain, vent or air out my dirty laundry on social media, but yesterday I just couldn’t help myself. I’m sure some of you saw my Facebook post. What can I say, I’m human, I was stuck in a funk and I needed a little support. Another upside to social media is the fact that sometimes you just need a little support to help get ya through a bad day. You can turn to your friends on Facebook to give ya a little love. Many thanks to all of you who helped pull me out of my funk yesterday.
So, as far as social media goes, let’s just try and remember that like with anything in life, there are going to be positives and negatives. We just have to embrace the good, deal with the bad as best we can, rise above it all and try to keep it real. Keep calm and carry on friends, because social media is here to stay!
As always, thank you for taking the time to read. Be kind to yourself and live life a little unfiltered this week.